I LOVE YOU OR YOU NEED?

The phenomenon of 'dependence' on a love To reach, and keep love, sometimes we except heart still need to include the brain. What are the biggest stereotypes in romantic relationships, why the attitude that we have to earn love leads to complete failure of the partnership relations? Did you know that today is increasingly common phenomenon of addiction to love and what it actually means?

Men and women are different in many ways, even in the way they prefer, say experts. But I love women more than men, the issue is about who is always water controversy. When we realized how truly functioning men and women in love, we would be, experts say, it is easier to achieve quality love relationship. The differences between men and women are not so drastic, but still there. Men do not show feelings immediately, while women are more emotional and able to fall in love express. So often become victims of their emotions.

I love you and need you ?!

"Men and women have equal capacity for giving and receiving love. But when we say that one partner loves you more, do not we think of love as such. This is about the phenomenon of addiction to love and relationships, so-called. codependency (suovisništvo). This is sveprisutnan, but poorly understood phenomenon which is: 'I want you and I love you!' Turns into 'I need you' and 'I can not imagine life without you!' One partner involved constantly giving more, while others receive more and bother less, "says Irena Jurjevic advisor Gestalt psychotherapy and practitioner of neurolinguistic programming NLP and hypnosis, and head of the Centre of success

No need to get love!

In our society, says the expert, due to education and social legacy of the past, women are more and more giving. Self-sacrificing, are more focused on the man and keep in touch. Some are still financially dependent on partneru.'Tako continue, despite emancipation, placed in an inferior position compared to men. However, if you move away from the social and economic context, the phenomenon of "excessive love" refers to people who do not appreciate themselves enough and that in my heart of hearts believe that they are not good enough, it does not apply and that they deserve love. These are people with low self-esteem and self-love. Their (often unconscious) belief that one must strive to earn love, rather than just exist and are being loved, the way they are, "says Irena Jurjevic.

The tradition is said that a woman should always be in the shadow of a man. When he came to life empancipacija, that has changed. But women are still more likely to suffer than men. If women non - stop unhappy loves, maybe the problem is still in it. A large number of women consciously chooses the man she knows is not good for her, hoping that she would be the one for which he was going to change.

BLAME IT education

'Perception that women are the ones they love more and more intense experience love today believe stereotypes. Some researchers believe that the same stereotype has its roots in ancient, discriminatory and completely erroneous opinion that women are the ones that are inferior to men in all, and the relationship between men and women is one in which a woman must compensate for the love and affection because of their inferiority, "says graduate. psychologist Ivona Mladina.

According to tradition, men are encouraged to independence with the aim to strengthen the independent care of yourself, learn to be practical, instrumental activities and skills, encourages problem solving, teaches him the assertive style of communication - commitment to yourself and your goals; while women are taught to be an expert on relationships and intimacy, they are encouraged to observe and learn about their and others' emotions and behavior, to show emotions and talk about them freely, while the commitment to yourself and your own needs is not the primary target.In the mr. spec. clinical psychology Neli Abramić Čehić, considered that the claim that women prefer more than men just a stereotype, because men and women like to qualitatively the same way.

'It is an interesting fact that men fall in love faster than women, and when, for example, comes to love suffering then research shows that 25% of men suffer more than women because of the emotional disruption, and is more likely to be men of older age before die after the loss of a partner, but as is the case with women, "says the expert. Although each of us tends and yearns for the perfect partner, very often we find an affair with an imperfect human being. We are often prone to problems that occur in love relationships attributable to differences in sex, what we are, in a way that prevents your partner see you as a person.

Most importantly - know yourself!

"The difficulties in love relationships and relationships occur mainly due to differences in personality traits, as well as the mode of communication between the partners. Although universal rules on how to choose the right one does, we could say that is especially important to know yourself and to know what the things we want from a love relationship, "says Neli Abramić Čehić. Love is not so far away that we can not reach, but in order to keep it and sometimes we except heart still need to include the brain.

• 18 Aug, 2016
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