How to survive the moment when the children go by their way and you stay alone ...

Although this moment for each parent is pervaded by deep and often confused emotions, he has to come to him. Children have to start their own life, and we, parents, must be able to continue with their ...

Blogger and life coach Suzanne Mountain has been living again in a quiet and neat home. Her children moved away and her life changed. How much that change is really big and comprehensive, she described in her blog. When our daughter went to college, we were terribly missed. Life somehow continued as long as our son did not leave, and we stayed alone in a quiet and peaceful home. We have really felt what is called "idle syndrome", writes portal My time. This is the seven lessons we have learned:

1. You will be thrilled with various emotions

You know that your children will grow up and leave your home. That's why you have to be because of that you are proud and happy and you know that you have done your job well. I knew my daughter would miss me, but I was not ready for such a blow. I refrained from crying after we left her in the student home, although I knew I would see her again soon. A week later, her fifteen-year-old brother commented he did not like entering her empty room because it reminds him that she is gone. Three years later I came back from work and heard the song about the son who left the parental home on the radio. I could not stop tears and barely came home. On the other hand, since I'm gone, I'm sleeping a lot better because no one else comes back home in the middle of the night and leaves the door open.

2. You will reconsider your identity as a parent

And when your kids leave, you are still a parent, but with no day-to-day obligations, and that can be quite strange. Suddenly there is no one who will call you "mom". Also, when someone asks me how old children are, it's almost uncomfortable for me to say they are 18 and 21 years old. It's as if my parental experience is no longer counted when it comes to adult people.

3. This will affect your friendships

The "gray divorce" rate is rising in both the United States and the United Kingdom. When there are no children you need to worry about, you start to go out, communicate with more people, and refresh some old friendships. And then you come to the opportunity to make someone new to you for an eye. 4. Your house will look very big Suddenly it is a quiet home. Sometimes the house may seem too big and too thin. You will miss many things you've been complaining about before. Also, the house has significantly less laundry and washing dishes, no heap, no daily cooking, house is clean and neat. 5. Technology is a two-blade sword

Modern technology allows you to communicate with people the way that all previous generations will be invoked. But be warned - maybe you will not like what you will know about your kids on social networks. 6. Create a plan .Do not let it surprise you. You know what is going on and you have time to get ready for it. For some, it is easier to spend leisure time with various enthusiasm so as not to despair of the vacant home. Travel. Even in shorter times. Make a list of things you want to do and go to work. 7. They are coming back

And finally, remember that the kids are coming back. Just when you get used to silence and peace, the semester is over and you're back at home with all that gallantry and appetites. In addition, the number of young people with a university graduate who is returning to a parent's home is growing daily.

• 13 Jun, 2017
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